Trauma & Recovery
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When Parenting Is A Form Of Therapy
No one tells you that becoming a parent can help heal your own childhood trauma. “Do you think parenting has brought up anything from your childhood?” the social worker asked. “Yes.” I paused, figuring out where to start. “In short, I just wish that I had a parent like me. And I wish the social…
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Buying A House Is Not Trauma Informed
Offer Accepted, with a sprinkle of anxiety and dread. We’re sat in the awkward in-between of “offer accepted” and “exchange date pending” of our dream house. I’m being hurled with well-meaning “fingers crossed for you”s, and “good lucks” which I didn’t even realise were necessary until recently, but have begun to fill me with dread.…
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Living inside a trauma brain
And building a life around it. Every now and then I let myself feel pity. I let myself feel sorry for myself. I let myself wallow in the pit of WHY MEs and IT ISN’T FAIRs and NO ONE KNOWS WHAT IT’S LIKEs. I let myself have flashbacks of the rapes and my head being…
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Babe, you activate my nervous system
Why the fuck am I afraid of you? I just got a phone call from a senior work colleague. It’s been half an hour and my heart is still racing, my palms are still sweaty, and I’ve subconsciously popped my feet onto tiptoes, as if my body is bracing to run. I have, of course,…